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This chapter from the BFG Handbook (Christian Edition of the Tao Te Ching) presents the gospel through a new "Expression" of God’s Love to RESTORE the Truth.

Chapter 45 from the BFG Handbook (Christian Edition of the Tao Te Ching) presents the gospel through a new “Expression” of God’s Love to RESTORE people to the Truth.

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Chapter 45: Greatness

 

Great perfection seems imperfect 1
But its lasting usefulness is unfailing 

Great fullness seems empty 2 
And yet it is inexhaustible 

Great straightness seems crooked 3
Great skill seems clumsy 4 
Great eloquence seems silent 5

Bustling-about overcomes cool times 6 
Stillness overcomes heated times 
Thus, stillness and silence are the Way of nature

 

Scripture behind each line
1
“Great perfection seems imperfect”
Hebrews 12:2John 3:34John 19:28-30
3
“Great straightness seems crooked”
Luke 3:4-6
5
“Great eloquence seems silent”
Exodus 4:10-12

Perfection That Looks Unfinished

Explains these lines

“Great perfection seems imperfect

But its lasting usefulness is unfailing”

Chapter 45 of the Christian edition of the Tao Te Ching presents a paradoxical view of greatness, where the most profound qualities appear counterintuitive to the world’s standards. The chapter begins by suggesting that great perfection may seem imperfect, yet its lasting usefulness remains unfailing, much like Christ’s perfect sacrifice, which appeared weak and imperfect to many but was, in truth, the means of eternal salvation (Hebrews 12:2). This idea is further reflected in John 19:28-30, where Jesus, in His final moments, declared, “It is finished,” showing how what seemed like an end was, in reality, a fulfillment of divine perfection.

The world measures perfection by polish: no flaws, no mess, nothing out of place. The Cross fails that test completely. Yet the Letter to the Hebrews calls Jesus “the pioneer and perfecter of faith,” and His perfection was love carried all the way to the end. That is why the line adds, “But its lasting usefulness is unfailing.” What He finished on Calvary still saves, still heals and still feeds us at every Mass.

“but he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.” So I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.”
2 Corinthians 12:9NRSVue

This changes how we see our own lives. God’s work in us often looks unfinished: a marriage still growing, a habit not yet broken, a faith that still has questions. St. Paul learned that God’s power shows up best in the very weak places we would rather hide. For a Christian, perfection is not looking flawless. It is a love that lasts, given by God and lived with Him, one imperfect day at a time.

“I am confident of this, that the one who began a good work in you will continue to complete it until the day of Jesus Christ.”
Philippians 1:6NRSVue
The Church Teaches

“On the Cross, Christ attained and fully accomplished his mission… In weakness he manifested his power, and in humiliation he manifested all his messianic greatness.”Saint John Paul II, Salvifici Doloris 22

“It is love “to the end” that confers on Christ’s sacrifice its value as redemption and reparation, as atonement and satisfaction.”Catechism 616

For Our Lives Today

It is past midnight and you are still fixing the slides for tomorrow, changing fonts nobody will notice. Or you are retaking the same photo again and again before you post it. Perfectionism promises peace once everything is flawless, but that day never comes. Chapter 45 offers a different measure: “Great perfection seems imperfect / But its lasting usefulness is unfailing.” The things that matter most, a meal shared, a promise kept, a prayer said in a hurry, rarely look perfect. God uses them anyway, and they last.

Try this today: Finish one task today that is useful but not perfect, and offer it to God instead of polishing it one more time.


Fullness That Never Runs Dry

Explains these lines

“Great fullness seems empty

And yet it is inexhaustible”

The chapter goes on to explain that great fullness may appear empty, yet it is inexhaustible. This mirrors the overflowing grace and abundance offered by God, as described in Romans 11:33 and 1 Peter 1:18. In Christ, believers experience a fullness that never runs dry—an inexhaustible source of life and grace (John 1:16).

From the outside, this fullness can look like nothing much. Jesus “made himself nothing” (Philippians 2:7). He was laid in a manger, owned no home and died with nothing but the clothes the soldiers gambled for. Yet out of that emptiness came a fullness that has fed the whole world. The same is true at the altar: what looks like a small piece of bread is Christ Himself, the gift that never runs out.

“knowing that you were ransomed from the futile ways inherited from your forefathers, not with perishable things such as silver or gold, but with the precious blood of Christ, like that of a lamb without blemish or spot.”
1 Peter 1:18-19ESV

St. Peter turns the line around. A life crowded with things can be the truly empty one, an “empty way of life” copied from everyone around us. The fullness God gives is different. It does not shrink when we share it, and it does not depend on our bank account or our feed. Jesus promised water that becomes “a spring of water welling up to eternal life” (John 4:14), and His mercy is new every single morning.

“The steadfast love of the LORD never ceases, his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”
Lamentations 3:22-23NRSVue
The Church Teaches

“The inexhaustible richness of this sacrament is expressed in the different names we give it.”Catechism 1328

“The beatific vision, in which God opens himself in an inexhaustible way to the elect, will be the ever-flowing well-spring of happiness, peace, and mutual communion.”Catechism 1045

For Our Lives Today

Your calendar is full, your closet is full, your phone storage is full, and your cart holds a few things you do not really need. Yet at the end of the day you feel strangely hollow. That is the “empty way of life” St. Peter warns about: crowded on the outside, thin on the inside. Chapter 45 points to another kind of fullness, one that “seems empty” because it is quiet. A few minutes before the Blessed Sacrament, a slow walk with someone you love, a simple prayer of thanks: these fill a heart in a way no cart ever can.

Try this today: Before you buy or scroll to fill an empty feeling today, pause and pray: “Lord, You are my fullness.”


Crooked Roads and Clumsy Hands

Explains these lines

“Great straightness seems crooked

Great skill seems clumsy”

Next, the chapter describes great straightness as seeming crooked, and great skill as appearing clumsy. These statements align with the way Christ’s ministry seemed upside down to the world. He defied conventional expectations and led through humility and sacrifice, as seen in Luke 3:4-6, where John the Baptist prepares the way for Jesus by declaring the need for repentance and making “the crooked places straight.” Similarly, David’s defeat of Goliath, though appearing improbable and clumsy to the world, was a display of God’s power and skill (1 Samuel 17:41-50).

When God straightens a road, it rarely happens the way we expect. John the Baptist did not prepare the way from a palace but from the wilderness, calling people to turn their hearts around. The straightness God gives begins inside: a heart made honest and turned back to Him. To a world that loves shortcuts, that path can look crooked and slow. To God, it is the straightest road there is.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”
Proverbs 3:5-6NRSVue

David’s story shows the same thing about skill. Before the fight, Saul dressed him in royal armor, and David could hardly walk in it. He took it off and went out with a sling and five smooth stones. It looked clumsy, even foolish. But the skill that mattered was his trust in God, joined to the simple gift he had practiced while keeping sheep. God still works this way, taking ordinary gifts offered humbly and doing great things with them.

“Then David said to the Philistine, ‘You come to me with a sword and with a spear and with a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the LORD of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied.’”
1 Samuel 17:45ESV
The Church Teaches

“St. John the Baptist is the Lord’s immediate precursor or forerunner, sent to prepare his way.”Catechism 523

“Against all human expectation God chooses those who were considered powerless and weak to show forth his faithfulness to his promises…”Catechism 489

“…charisms are oriented toward sanctifying grace and are intended for the common good of the Church. They are at the service of charity which builds up the Church.”Catechism 2003

For Our Lives Today

You thought you would be further along by now. Your friends seem to have straight-line lives: degree, job, house, kids. Yours has detours, a layoff, a move, a long wait. Or you just started something new, a job, a ministry, being a parent, and you feel clumsy every single day. Chapter 45 says, “Great straightness seems crooked / Great skill seems clumsy.” God is not grading your path against anyone else’s. He is straightening it from the inside, and He can use your fumbling, willing hands far more than polished pride.

Try this today: Offer one ordinary skill this week, cooking, fixing, driving or listening, to help someone, without waiting until you feel good enough.


When Silence Speaks

Explains this line

“Great eloquence seems silent”

Great eloquence is described as seeming silent, which echoes Exodus 4:10-12, where Moses, despite his perceived inadequacies in speech, was chosen by God to lead the Israelites out of Egypt. God’s power is often displayed through weakness, showing that divine wisdom does not conform to human expectations.

God’s answer to Moses is worth hearing in full. He does not tell Moses that he is secretly a great speaker. He reminds him who made his mouth, and He promises to be with it. The words that set Israel free were never Moses’ own. They were God’s words, carried by a man who knew he could not do it alone.

“Now therefore go, and I will be with your mouth and teach you what you shall speak.”
Exodus 4:12ESV

Jesus fulfills this line most of all. The eternal Word, through whom everything was made, spoke His greatest message from the Cross with very few words. Our best witness is often quiet too: a kept promise, a patient answer, a life that makes people wonder why we live this way. Words still matter. They simply carry more weight when they come out of silence and prayer.

“…my beloved brothers and sisters: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger”
James 1:19NRSVue
The Church Teaches

“There is something of a divine plea in this mission, and only after long debate does Moses attune his own will to that of the Savior God.”Catechism 2575

“The word is muted; it becomes mortal silence, for it has “spoken” exhaustively, holding back nothing of what it had to tell us.”Pope Benedict XVI, Verbum Domini 12

“Instead of seeming to impose new obligations, they should appear as people who wish to share their joy, who point to a horizon of beauty and who invite others to a delicious banquet. It is not by proselytizing that the Church grows, but “by attraction”.”Pope Francis, Evangelii Gaudium 14

For Our Lives Today

A friend posts in the group chat that her dad is in the hospital. Everyone rushes in with advice, links and long paragraphs. You are not sure what to say, so you do something different. You text her privately: “I am praying for you. Can I bring dinner Thursday?” Then you show up. Later she tells you it meant more than all the messages put together. That is “Great eloquence seems silent.” Presence, a few honest words and quiet prayer often speak louder than the cleverest reply.

Try this today: In your next hard conversation, listen all the way to the end before you answer, and pray silently while you listen.


Stillness in Heated Times

Explains these lines

“Bustling-about overcomes cool times

Stillness overcomes heated times

Thus, stillness and silence are the Way of nature”

Finally, the chapter suggests that stillness and silence are the true ways of nature, overpowering the chaos of busyness and heated times. Proverbs 29:11 and Psalm 37:7-9 emphasize the wisdom of waiting quietly for God’s timing. Jesus Himself demonstrated this in His trial, remaining silent when accused (Matthew 27:12-14), showing how stillness can be a powerful response to the trials of life.

The chapter does not say that all activity is bad. “Bustling-about overcomes cool times”: when life is cold and stuck, it is right to get moving, to serve, to begin. Jesus worked hard, healed the sick late into the evening and walked from town to town. But He knew the other half too. When the crowds pressed in and the days grew heated, He led His friends away to rest.

“He said to them, “Come away to a deserted place all by yourselves and rest a while.”…”
Mark 6:31NRSVue

“Stillness overcomes heated times.” On the stormy lake, Jesus did not panic with His disciples. He stood up and spoke peace, and the wind obeyed. That calm was not weakness; it was the strength of a Son who trusted His Father completely. And the chapter ends by calling stillness and silence “the Way of nature.” Creation grows this way: seeds sprout in the dark, and the skies praise God without a sound.

“The heavens are telling the glory of God, and the firmament proclaims his handiwork… There is no speech, nor are there words; their voice is not heard”
Psalm 19:1, 3NRSVue
The Church Teaches

“Inward and outward silence are necessary if we are to be able to hear this word. And in our time this point is particularly difficult for us.”Pope Benedict XVI, General Audience on the Silence of Jesus

“…Saint Francis, faithful to Scripture, invites us to see nature as a magnificent book in which God speaks to us and grants us a glimpse of his infinite beauty and goodness.”Pope Francis, Laudato Si’ 12

For Our Lives Today

It is late, and an email lands from your boss, sharp and unfair. Or the family group chat erupts over politics again. Your thumbs are already moving, and the reply you are drafting would feel great for about a minute. Chapter 45 says, “Stillness overcomes heated times.” Jesus answered His accusers with silence, and it did not make Him weak. Put the phone down. Breathe. Pray. Answer in the morning, if at all. And on the cold, stuck days, do the opposite: get up and do one helpful thing.

Try this today: When you feel the heat rising today, wait before you reply: take a few slow breaths and pray, “Jesus, be still in me.”


Living the Chapter

From Chapter 45

The whole chapter, put into practice

In this way, Chapter 45 calls believers to recognize that true greatness in God’s Kingdom often looks different from what the world esteems. It is found in humility, stillness, and trust in God’s sufficiency, rather than in outward success or striving. Through Christ’s example, we see that the way of greatness is often the way of apparent weakness, but it is in this very weakness that God’s strength is made perfect.

Chapter 45 turns greatness inside out. It is the finished work that looked like failure, the fullness that looked empty, the straight road that looked crooked, the skill that looked clumsy and the Word who spoke through silence. Each time, the line leads us to Jesus, who chose the hidden, humble way and showed us that it was the way of power.

“…but whoever wishes to be great among you must be your servant, and whoever wishes to be first among you must be your slave, just as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve and to give his life a ransom for many.”
Matthew 20:26-28NRSVue

We do not have to win the world’s contest to live this chapter. We can stop polishing and start serving. We can let God fill us instead of our carts and calendars. We can trust the bend in the road, offer our plain gifts and stay still when the heat rises. That is how ordinary people become great in God’s Kingdom.

“But we have this treasure in jars of clay, to show that the surpassing power belongs to God and not to us.”
2 Corinthians 4:7ESV
The Church Teaches

“The Gospel of suffering is being written unceasingly, and it speaks unceasingly with the words of this strange paradox: the springs of divine power gush forth precisely in the midst of human weakness.”Saint John Paul II, Salvifici Doloris 27

“‘The Church on earth is endowed already with a sanctity that is real though imperfect.’ In her members perfect holiness is something yet to be acquired…”Catechism 825

For Our Lives Today

Think of the most quietly great person you know. Maybe it is the grandmother who has prayed the Rosary for her family every day for years, or the man who stacks chairs after every parish event and never asks for thanks. Maybe it is a nurse on the night shift, or a dad who shows up to every game and says little. Nobody will make a highlight reel about them. But Chapter 45 says this is what greatness looks like in God’s Kingdom: humble, steady, still and full of a love that never runs out.

Try this today: This week, thank one quietly faithful person whose greatness the world does not notice, and tell them what their example means to you.

Chapter 45 in one lineIn God’s Kingdom greatness looks small: perfect love on a Cross, fullness poured out, plain gifts offered in trust and a stillness stronger than any storm.



RENEWAL

The Trinitarian M.A.P. is the method for RENEWAL, where God’s Love shapes our MINDSET, Trust in the Son directs our AIM, and Faith in the Holy Spirit guides our PRACTICE.

This chapter offers a new “Method” for the New Evangelization to RENEW our hearts and minds through the Trinitarian M.A.P. Bring this chapter into your day with the BFG Companion App. Pick Chapter 45 and an area of your life, and get Guidance made for you.

1Perfect, not polished“Great perfection seems imperfect”
2Full, not crowded“Great fullness seems empty”
3Trusting the bend“Great straightness seems crooked”
4Plain gifts, offered“Great skill seems clumsy”
5Calm in the heat“Stillness overcomes heated times”
MINDSET
God’s Love shapes how we think

Renewal starts in how we see ourselves. Chapter 45 begins, “Great perfection seems imperfect, but its lasting usefulness is unfailing.” Many of us carry a quiet perfectionism: the spotless house, the right grades, the flawless post. When we fall short, we feel like failures. But the most perfect work ever done, Jesus’ sacrifice, looked like defeat on Good Friday. God’s idea of perfect is love that lasts, not a life without cracks. St. Paul heard the Lord say, “My power is made perfect in weakness.”

The chapter goes on: “Great fullness seems empty, and yet it is inexhaustible.” A renewed mind stops measuring fullness by what we own, how busy we are or how many people notice us. With the Lord as our shepherd we “lack nothing.” His grace does not run out when we are tired, when we fail or when we give it away. So we start each day from His fullness, not our emptiness, and let that change how we see everything else.

Try this: When you catch yourself redoing something just to make it look perfect today, stop and pray: “Lord, let it be useful, and let it be Yours.”

2 Corinthians 12:9NRSVue “but he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for power is made perfect in weakness.’ So I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me.”

Psalm 23:1NRSVue “The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.”

More Scripture: 1 Samuel 16:7 · John 1:16

AIM
Trust in the Son directs where we look

A renewed mind needs a direction. Chapter 45 says, “Great straightness seems crooked.” Our aim is not the fastest or most impressive route; it is God’s route, even when it bends. Proverbs promises that when we trust Him and stop leaning on our own understanding, “he will make your paths straight.” Sometimes the detour, the long wait or the job we never planned is the very road He is straightening, from the inside out.

Then: “Great skill seems clumsy.” We aim our gifts at serving, not at being admired. David looked out of place on the battlefield, yet God used his simple sling and his trust. Our talents work the same way when we put them in God’s hands. St. Peter says, “Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others.” The aim is not to look skilled. It is to be useful to the One who gave the gift.

Try this: Before a decision this week, pray first: “Lord, which way is straight in Your eyes?” Then take one small step that way.

Proverbs 3:5-6NRSVue “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and do not rely on your own insight. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.”

1 Peter 4:10NRSVue “…”

More Scripture: Isaiah 55:8 · 1 Corinthians 1:27

PRACTICE
Faith in the Holy Spirit guides how we live

Renewal becomes real in daily habits. Chapter 45 says, “Great eloquence seems silent.” So we practice listening more than we talk: at the dinner table, in meetings, in the comments. St. James puts it plainly: be “quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” Moses was sure he had no gift for words, yet God promised, “I will help you speak” (Exodus 4:12). Our words grow wiser when they come out of quiet prayer.

Then the chapter gives us a rhythm: “Bustling-about overcomes cool times. Stillness overcomes heated times.” When life feels cold and stuck, we get moving and serve. When life feels heated, we slow down and get still. Jesus stayed silent before His accusers and calmed the storm with a word. So we build stillness into our days, a quiet moment of prayer, a Sunday kept for God, a pause before we reply, because “stillness and silence are the Way of nature.”

Try this: Tomorrow, before you open your phone, sit still for a moment and pray, “Be still, and know that I am God.”

James 1:19NRSVue “…my beloved brothers and sisters: let everyone be quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger”

Psalm 46:10NRSVue “Be still, and know that I am God! I am exalted among the nations; I am exalted in the earth.”

More Scripture: Mark 4:39 · Isaiah 30:15

In short: think humbly, aim at what is eternal, live by the Spirit. Let God define what is perfect and full, trust His straight road when it bends, offer your plain gifts, and practice the stillness and silence that let Him speak first.




RESPOND

Renewal brings the transformation of our spirit with ardor, empowering us to RESPOND to the call of holiness and make disciples of all nations. This encourages meaningful dialogue to embrace shared truths that transcend cultural and religious boundaries.

Respond · Go and Share
Go and Share: Responding as Missionary Apostles

Renewal does not end with us. When God renews a heart, He sends it out, and Chapter 45 shows the kind of messengers He likes to use. Moses said he had never been eloquent, and David looked clumsy in borrowed armor, yet God spoke and fought through them both. “Great eloquence seems silent,” and “great skill seems clumsy.” You do not have to be impressive to be sent; you only have to be His.

Step 1
The Call
“Go therefore and make disciples of all nations… And remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.”Matthew 28:19-20 (NRSVue)
“…you will receive power when the Holy Spirit has come upon you, and you will be my witnesses in Jerusalem, in all Judea and Samaria, and to the ends of the earth.”Acts 1:8 (NRSVue)
Step 2
New Ardor, New Methods, New Expression

In 1983, Saint John Paul II called the Church to an evangelization that is “new in its ardor, new in its methods, new in its expression.” The Gospel never changes. The way we carry it must be alive for our time. Chapter 45 shows why: a loud, fast, filtered world needs fresh words that point to a greatness that looks humble and a fullness that never runs dry.

New in Ardor
The fire

Ardor is the fire of a heart that has been loved by God. People feel it before they hear a single word. Chapter 45 says, “Great fullness seems empty, and yet it is inexhaustible.” The fire in us does not come from our own energy; it comes from a fullness that never runs out.

New in Expression
The words

Use the words people use today: simple, honest and personal. Share your story, not a lecture. Chapter 45 says “great eloquence seems silent,” so let a patient presence and a few well-chosen words speak before any long speech.

New in Methods
The tools

Meet people where they are: on the phone in their hand. The BFG Handbook and the BFG Companion turn one conversation into a path to Christ and His Church. Chapter 45 says “great skill seems clumsy.” Our tools do not need to be flashy; offered humbly, they simply make room for God to work.

Step 3
New in Ardor: The Fire
Pray first. Each morning ask the Holy Spirit, “Who do You want me to love today?”
Let joy show. A calm, joyful face says more than a perfect argument.
Draw from the full well. The chapter calls God’s fullness “inexhaustible,” so pray first and give from what He gives, not from your own tired reserves.
Love the person, not the debate. Listen twice as long as you speak.
Be brave and gentle. “Always be ready to make your defense to anyone who demands from you an accounting for the hope that is in you, yet do it with gentleness and respect” (1 Peter 3:15-16, NRSVue).
“Modern man listens more willingly to witnesses than to teachers.”Saint Paul VI
Step 4
New in Expression: Words for Our Time

Use the words people use today: simple, honest and personal. Share your story, not a lecture. Chapter 45 says “great eloquence seems silent,” so let a patient presence and a few well-chosen words speak before any long speech.

They say“I have to get everything perfect, or I feel like a failure.”
You can say“I know that feeling. A line that helps me is “Great perfection seems imperfect, but its lasting usefulness is unfailing.” Jesus’ greatest work looked like failure on the Cross. Can I share where that line comes from?”
They say“I have everything I wanted, and I still feel empty.”
You can say“That is honest, and you are not alone. There is a line I love: “Great fullness seems empty, and yet it is inexhaustible.” The fullness God gives does not run out. Want to talk about it?”
They say“My life is not going the way I planned at all.”
You can say“Mine has zigzagged too. The chapter I am reading says “Great straightness seems crooked.” Sometimes the bend is exactly where God is making the path straight. Want to pray about it together?”
They say“I am not talented enough to make a difference.”
You can say“David looked clumsy too, with just a sling and a few stones. The line says “Great skill seems clumsy.” God does great things with ordinary gifts offered to Him.”
They say“Why don’t you fight back when people mock your faith?”
You can say“Sometimes I do answer. But Jesus stayed silent before His accusers, and a line I love says “Great eloquence seems silent.” A calm life can say more than a heated reply.”
They say“Everything is so tense right now, I feel like I am going to explode.”
You can say“I get it. A line from the BFG Handbook helps me: “Stillness overcomes heated times.” Can we take a quiet minute together before you decide anything?”
Your story in three parts
1Before

What my life was like before I really met Jesus.

2How

How He met me, and the moment things began to change.

3Now

What is different now, and the hope I carry. Like the chapter’s “great straightness seems crooked,” when did a detour in your life turn out to be the road God was straightening?

Step 5
New in Methods: The BFG Tools

Meet people where they are: on the phone in their hand. The BFG Handbook and the BFG Companion turn one conversation into a path to Christ and His Church. Chapter 45 says “great skill seems clumsy.” Our tools do not need to be flashy; offered humbly, they simply make room for God to work.

BFG Handbook

Every chapter has its own song and is written in a language people of every faith can understand. A doorway for dialogue. Chapter 45, Greatness, helps anyone worn out by perfectionism, feeling empty in a full life, or tempted to meet anger with more heat.

Guidance

A friend shares a struggle. Together, pick a chapter and an area of life (start with Chapter 45 when someone feels they are never good enough, or is stuck in a heated season and needs stillness). In seconds: a reflection, the M.A.P., a saint, a prayer, Scripture, a song and a church nearby. Send it by email, PDF or a share link.

Ask BFG

Hard question? Ask it together. Answers are grounded in Catholic teaching, the saints and the BFG Handbook. Talk or type. Try asking together: “Why did Jesus stay silent when He was accused?”

Pray My Rosary

Pray the Rosary with a guided voice, the daily mysteries and beads that follow along. Pray it with someone, even over the phone. In the Sorrowful Mysteries we watch Jesus stay silent before His accusers and finish His work on the Cross, the hidden greatness Chapter 45 describes.

Church Finder

Catholic churches near anyone, with Mass and Confession times, directions, and one tap to add a time to the calendar. Every conversation can end at a church door. There, in what looks like a small piece of bread, is the fullness the chapter calls “inexhaustible.”

Reminders & My Journey

Morning, midday and evening prayer reminders, a daily streak and a steady prayer rhythm help a new believer keep going. A daily pause of stillness, because “stillness overcomes heated times.”

Free to start, no card needed. Read aloud in 48 languages.

Step 6
Why BFG Is Made for the New Evangelization
1
It meets people where they are. In their pocket, at any hour, in 48 languages.
2
It is personal. It speaks to their exact question, not a one-size pamphlet.
3
It is faithful. Grounded in Scripture, Catholic teaching and the lives of the saints.
4
It leads to the Church. Every Guidance ends with a real parish, with Mass and Confession times.
5
It opens doors. The Handbook gives people of every faith a common language for dialogue. Chapter 45’s struggles, perfectionism, emptiness in the middle of plenty and heated tempers, are things every person knows.
6
It keeps walking with them. Prayer reminders, the Rosary and My Journey help faith grow day by day.
7
It serves people; it does not replace them. Technology at the service of the human person. You are still the witness.
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It has guardrails and safeguards. Every answer is checked to stay true to Catholic teaching, and anyone in crisis is pointed to real help right away. Like Chapter 45’s “great eloquence seems silent,” it does not try to impress with a voice of its own; it passes on the Church’s teaching faithfully.

One tool that walks with a person from the first question to the church door.

Step 7
Where Can I Go? Start Close, Then Go Far

Jesus sent His apostles first to Jerusalem, then to Judea and Samaria, then to the ends of the earth (Acts 1:8). Start where you are. Chapter 45 says greatness often looks small, so the quiet, faithful people right around you may be closer to God’s idea of great than anyone on a stage.

1 Home & Family First
  • Pray the Rosary together on Pray My Rosary.
  • Bless your children at bedtime.
  • Share a Guidance with a spouse or child who is struggling.
  • Find Sunday Mass times together with Church Finder.
  • Read Chapter 45 at dinner and ask: “What imperfect thing turned out to be useful this week?”
2 Friends
  • Text a verse from your Guidance.
  • Ask, “How can I pray for you?” and pray right then.
  • Invite a friend to Mass, then go for coffee.
  • Send the line: “Stillness overcomes heated times.”
3 School & Work
  • Be the calm, kind one.
  • Pray on your lunch break with a reminder.
  • Start a small chapter group that meets once a week. Begin with Chapter 45, Greatness.
  • Respect the rules: invite, never push.
4 Parties & Get-Togethers
  • Listen for the moment: “Things have been hard.”
  • Offer: “Can I send you something that helped me?”
  • Share the Chapter 45 song.
5 Meeting People One-on-One
  • Ask good questions and really listen.
  • Share your three-part story.
  • Open Ask BFG together when a question comes up.
  • When a friend feels like a failure, share “Great perfection seems imperfect, but its lasting usefulness is unfailing,” and remind them God is not finished with them.
6 Your Neighborhood & Parish
  • Visit the sick, the elderly and the lonely; pray the Rosary with them.
  • Serve at a food bank.
  • Welcome newcomers at Mass.
  • Join your parish evangelization team.
7 Local Businesses
  • Ask shops, cafés and offices to display a BFG card with a QR code.
  • Offer a short lunch talk on faith at work.
  • Business owners: offer the Companion to staff as a free gift, never a requirement.
8 Popular Places: Gyms, Parks, Coffee Shops & Game Days
  • Go where people already gather, and be the friendly one who listens.
  • Pray quietly for the people around you.
  • When a talk turns real, share a Guidance or the chapter song.
  • Wear or carry a simple sign of your faith, like a cross or a rosary, that can start a conversation.
  • At the gym, where everyone chases the perfect look, share that Chapter 45 says “great perfection seems imperfect,” and real strength is the kind that lasts.
9 Hold an Event
  • Host a Chapter 45 “Greatness” night, a Handbook chapter night, a Rosary night or an “Ask Anything” faith night.
  • Show the Companion on a big screen and let people try it.
  • We did this at our free conference, The New Evangelization in the Age of AI, at Christ Cathedral.
10 Online
  • Share a Guidance, a chapter song or a Scripture card. Try: “Great perfection seems imperfect, but its lasting usefulness is unfailing.”
  • One post can reach someone you will never meet.
11 Other Countries
  • Join a parish or diocese mission trip.
  • The Companion speaks 48 languages, so you leave behind something that keeps speaking after you go home.
  • Chapter 45’s wisdom about quiet strength and stillness is honored in many cultures, a natural bridge to Jesus, who stayed silent before His accusers.
12 Help Groups Doing the Work
  • Your parish ministries, the Legion of Mary, the Society of St. Vincent de Paul, Catholic Charities, prison, hospital and campus ministries, and mission groups.
  • Bring the BFG tools to their work.
Step 8
Your Mission M.A.P.
M
Mindset “I am sent.”God has loved me, so I can love others without fear. My worth is not in being flawless; God’s perfect love works through my weakness.
A
Aim “One person this week.”Write down one name. Jesus always went to the one. Point them to the fullness in Christ that never runs dry.
P
Practice “Pray, share, invite.”Pray for them by name each day, share one thing that helped you, and invite them one step closer. Answer one heated moment this week with stillness instead of more heat.
Five steps of every conversation
ListenHear their story first.→LoveShow you care, whatever they believe.→ShareTell what God has done for you.→InviteOffer one next step.→Walk withStay with them after the first yes.
Step 9
Your 7-Day Mission Challenge
Step 10
Sent Out

You will not always feel ready. Your words may feel clumsy, and your life may look unfinished. But Chapter 45 says “great skill seems clumsy” and “great eloquence seems silent,” and God has always worked through people like that. Go humbly. Go calmly. Go together. The same Spirit who renewed you now sends you, to carry His inexhaustible fullness into a loud and tired world.

“…And I said, ‘Here am I; send me!’”Isaiah 6:8 (NRSVue)
“How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!”Romans 10:15 (NRSVue)
A prayer before you go

God of quiet strength and unfailing fullness, Holy Spirit, set my heart on fire. Jesus, send me to the one You love. Father, make me Your witness today. Amen.

NRSVue © 2021 National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide. Scripture quotations marked ESV are from the ESV® Bible (The Holy Bible, English Standard Version®), © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. ESV Text Edition: 2025. The ESV text may not be quoted in any publication made available to the public by a Creative Commons license. The ESV may not be translated in whole or in part into any other language. Used by permission. All rights reserved.

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